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Day 12: A picture is worth a thousand words.
Find a picture that is worth a thousand words, and turn it into a fun or appreciative note for him to find. Look back through the pictures you've taken – whether from last week or thirty years ago – and choose one that reminds you of a great time you and your husband spent together. A time that he made very special in some way.
Make a copy of the photo, and leave it out for him with a note that expresses your memory of appreciation. ("Look what I found from that river rafting trip. I was so scared and yet you kept telling me I could do it. Thanks for believing in me." or "I came across this picture from our first fishing trip. You were so patient teaching me how to fish. Let's do that again soon.)
If you are doing a gift journal, make sure you put that story (and maybe a copy of the picture) in the journal.
Coach's Corner:
Reflecting on good times can help prevent the common trap of getting your mindset stuck on today's problems. A 2014 The Atlantic article on John Gottman's research pointed out, "People who are focused on criticizing their partners miss a whopping 50% of positive things their partners are doing and they see negativity when it's not there." (See Emily Esfahani Smith, "Masters of Love", The Atlantic, Jun 12, 2014.)
Bonus Video
In today's bonus video, you'll see how kindness is a superpower that can heal even the most difficult relationships.
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is brought to you via our partnership with Shaunti Feldhahn, and is based on her research for The Kindness Challenge.
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