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Day 12: Enough with the negativity!
As a parent, it is SO easy to constantly correct our kids. Part of what we learn during the 30-Day Kindness Challenge is how to resist going overboard. When we're only allowed to express correction for important things, and have to withhold all negative talk, we realize just how much negative correction we gave before!
So today, do everything possible to stay positive. Do not correct your child's communication efforts, unless their words are belittling or obviously hurtful to others and you could tell that was their intention. (Remember, this is just for 30 days!)
Our research found that kids sometimes truly don't realize how they are coming across. Or even if they do, sometimes they just need the freedom to express their knowledge about people and events happening in the world. Even if their opinion is off, it's ok to let it ride now and then. It is a great way to find out what is actually going on in their thoughts.
Coach's Corner: Usually, kids just want their parents to listen to what they have to say—without fear of criticism or correction. That is especially true if your child is used to you arguing with them. So for today, practice listening without negative commenting and see what happens.
Bonus Video: Is your relationship with your child a bit strained? In today's bonus video, you'll see how kindness is a superpower that can heal even the most difficult relationships.
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is brought to you via our partnership with Shaunti Feldhahn, and is based on her research for The Kindness Challenge.
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