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Day 5: Everyone makes mistakes: be supportive
Everyone makes mistakes, and is touched by unconditional support and encouragement – especially when they don't deserve it. The next time your husband suffers consequences from a mistake (woke up late, didn't let you know he wouldn't be home in time for dinner, missed his Fantasy Football team lunch because he had to go to court for his speeding ticket), offer your unconditional support and encouragement with no mention of what he did wrong. ("You've been so tired lately, I know you really needed that extra sleep," or "You work so hard and I know your boss sometimes keeps you late. Let me warm up dinner for you.")
Coach's Corner:
During this thirty days, avoid the temptation to correct or criticize (e.g. "But next time you should call.") That sort of corrective statement can come later—after he sees your unconditional support – and only if absolutely necessary. You may see such a difference in his response that you decide to keep avoiding the temptation to correct even after the thirty days are over!
Which type of generosity is both easiest for you and most impactful for your husband?
You can see the eight types of generosity in Chapter 8. See if you can spot some actions that your husband would especially respond to - and then be sure to include some of them during the 30-Day Kindness Challenge.
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is brought to you via our partnership with Shaunti Feldhahn, and is based on her research for The Kindness Challenge. [Include small image of TKC cover and Buy the Book button]
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