Day 6 of The Kindness Challenge

Day 6: The key to really pleasing her

What about sex? Read this short article with a surprising fact that applies to most (although not all) women. Practice giving "anticipation time" cues, and see what happens. You may need to ask her (during your talk time today?) how much anticipation time she needs – some women need an entire day, others just a few hours and a smaller percentage do not need any time at all. Christian sex therapists Debra Taylor and Dr. Mike Sytsma explain it this way:

This (sexual desire) is a key area of misunderstanding between husbands and wives. Many women have commented to us, "I enjoy sex once we're 10 to 15 minutes into foreplay, and I think, Wow! We should do this more often! But during the week I hardly ever think about it. I wish I felt more sexual than I See more here.do, because I enjoy the closeness it brings."

Coach's corner:

Have you wondered where sex fits into the Challenge? We're specifically not tying kindness and sex because in most marriages (although not all) men already think about sex more than women, and many do caring things with sex in mind. But this unintentionally sabotages their efforts because it trains women to think he doesn't really care ... he just wants to get lucky later.

So during this 30 days, hug her just to hug her; be kind just to be kind. This does NOT mean abstain from sex. Just be aware of putting some time and space between your acts of kindness (or hugs) and your initiation of sex.

Bonus Video:

And speaking of sex: remember, a woman usually needs to feel close to her man outside the bedroom, in order to want to be close inside the bedroom. Watch this short bonus video from Shaunti and learn more about how to "see" and catch your previously unseen unkindness.