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Day 15: Mid-point check - looking both inwards and outwards
Grab your personal notebook, reflect on these two questions, and make notes about what you've seen/learned.
- First, look inward at yourself: Are you seeing any difference in yourself or how you feel about your marriage? For example, is it easier to give that 15 minutes of undistracted attention to your wife every day? Is it easier today than Day 1 to think about her positive qualities or to think ahead about and do an act of kindness? If so, you are making progress!
- Second, look outward at your wife's cues: Are you seeing any differences in her or how she feels about you and your marriage? For example, how is she enjoying the daily 15 minutes of undistracted attention from you? Is she more responsive to the acts of kindness, or the words of love?
Coach's corner:
In our research, we've seen that one of the best things a man can do to make his marriage great is to become a student of his wife. To "study" her. Not just her likes, dislikes, favorite food, but how to read her. What does she respond to best? What are her signals of feeling flat? Hurt? Inspired? Loved? Studying her is worth your time and effort. Because once you read and follow the signals, you'll see the good ones come up a lot more often.
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is brought to you via our partnership with Shaunti Feldhahn, and is based on her research for The Kindness Challenge.
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