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Day 19: What does she think?
Has your wife noticed or said anything about your efforts in the 30-Day Kindness Challenge?
If so, let her know how it makes you feel when she acknowledges your efforts (even if she doesn't know about the Challenge itself). She simply may not realize how much it means to you when she says "thank you." A little nudge can help encourage her to encourage you.
If not, think through what is working well, what you might want to do differently, and what she is most responsive to, and try more of what she does respond to.
Coach's corner:
If she hasn't noticed your efforts – or seems unmoved by them -- consider whether something else needs to happen first. For example, if you have hurt her and that wound hasn't had closure, no amount of kindness or attentiveness can substitute for an apology. Once you apologize, she may be more open.
"Through this process, I've become more conscious of my own faults, not just those of [the other person]. It will make a difference to tell her that and ask for forgiveness. But it also makes a difference for me."
– The Kindness Challenge
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is brought to you via our partnership with Shaunti Feldhahn, and is based on her research for The Kindness Challenge.
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