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Day 24. Following up
How did your person's plans go yesterday? Whatever you encouraged them about, ask how it went, then further encourage them with "great job," "you are so good at that stuff," "I'm hoping that will turn out well in the end", or other praise wherever possible—or commiserations where appropriate.
Coach's Corner: Sometimes, commiserating during disappointments is just as much a type of affirmation as cheering successes. The key is knowing whether the other person just wants you to listen to their feelings rather than fix the reason for the disappointment (more common for women, girls, and younger boys), or whether, in the face of disappointment, they feel like a failure and inadequate and as such simply need to know you believe in them (more common for men and older teenage boys).
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is brought to you via our partnership with Shaunti Feldhahn, and is based on her research for The Kindness Challenge.
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