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Day 7: Checking in
Accountability check: How have you been doing at nixing the negatives? Especially any negativity about your child to someone else?
Look back on the past week and identify any cases where you were negative, despite your efforts. List those in your personal notebook. Next to each, identify the reasons you slipped up. ("I got exasperated that Ben forgot to do his homework." "I get irritated when I am tired and stressed, and have already repeated an instruction over and over.") Then, brainstorm what you could have done differently to prevent the negativity. ("I should have just not said anything for a few minutes, told him I'd be back in five minutes, and walked outside to cool down my temper.") Pick one or two success strategies to employ next time.
Coach's Corner: Those unrealized ways we are negative are usually what most sabotage our efforts to be kind—and we don't know it until it is too late. So identifying and addressing your negativity triggers is a small action with a huge impact. (If you are still unsure what your negativity triggers are, see chapter 6.)
Coach's Check-Up: Congratulations! You've made it through the first week. Even if you aren't yet seeing the results, you will! And the most positive change may be the way you feel about yourself after these thirty days.
Don't give up, as you begin realizing how many things you need to work on. Awareness is the first step to change! Very soon you will feel better about your actions – and your attitude.
Do you have any advice for others? Use #JoinKindness to post how you are feeling about your efforts, and see how others are doing.
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is brought to you via our partnership with Shaunti Feldhahn, and is based on her research for The Kindness Challenge.
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